Embracing Bad Situations!

Have you ever had one bad thing after another happen to you? Well I could have been the poster child for tragedies. Walking around wondering why me Lord. I’m sure that I’m not the only one that ever asked that question. But I must say it was a constant one for me. I also thought what a horrible person I must have been in life to have to go through so much. Can you imagine saying to yourself God must not love me to let this happen to me. Well this was all before I had a true relationship with God. See when we don’t understand just how much God truly loves us our minds start to wonder. Well that is a trick of the enemy. He would have us think that God has left us through all of the bad that we go through. Well I’m here to say that all of the bad situations that you have had to endure were for the good of others. Every bad thing I’ve been through in my life was so I could show someone else how God brought me out to the other side. You have to embrace every situation in your life good and bad. But when your going through the storm know that God is right there with you and He will see you through. There is nothing like sharing your story to help another person stay above water.Image 

The Ultimate Defeat!!

1017745_702074113205911_5305461818255746874_nThat moment when you think you have everything all worked out just to have it backfire in your face, what do you do? Well you can do one of two things. You can fall to defeat or brush yourself off and have faith that God will help you through. Often  times we fall into the first scenario. We just automatically give up. Then here it comes blaming God for what didn’t go our way. Or the way we thought He told us it would go. But were you clear about what He wanted you to do? Or was it more of what you wanted to do? We must always be clear about what God is telling us so that we don’t step outside of His will. When we feel defeated emotions are on the rise, mostly anger and depression. Angry at God because we feel He left us. Or depressed because we feel like the world is over. The truth is God has never left our side!!! This is where FAITH comes in!

Haven’t you realized by now that a setback is a setup for a breakthrough!!! The enemy would LOVE for you to lose your faith in The Lord. He wants you to give up and be defeated so he can come in and totally destroy you. But you must hold tight to your faith. All we need is faith the size of a mustard seed.(Matthew 17:20) Some of you God has promised some things and you don’t see it manifesting yet…TRUST!(Hebrews 11:1) Keep the faith that it will come in God’s timing and not yours. DO NOT WALK IN DEFEAT WALK IN FAITH THAT GOD IS ALWAYS WITH YOU. REMEMBER HE KNOWS THE PLANS HE HAS FOR YOU! (JEREMIAH 29:11)


Why Settle???

As a single mother it baffles me why we tend to settle just so were not alone. I see this play out time and time again. While we are speaking on it I’ll be the first to say I have been that woman. We look at other people and think, oh I want what they have. But did you ever stop to think that what they have is not for you?? See God has something different for each one of us. We just have to wait on Him. I know that those words are easy to say but hard to live by. Don’t you see every time you pick that person it’s really not at all what you were looking for. How many of you are tired of settling just to have companionship? In your heart you know you want and deserve more but your scared to be alone. STOP being afraid to let go of someone that God never intended for you to have in the first place. You will never find happiness trying to do things your way.

Here is what I don’t understand why get someone that you have to take care of along with your children? Then I hear we can get through anything because we love each other. I am all for love but I have a low tolerance for crazy! Why is it okay for you to go to work and he’s at home doing nothing? Or better yet driving around in your car that you have to put gas in? And ladies don’t get to excited because there are some men out here doing the same thing. They are taking care of some women who really don’t want anything in life but a free ride. I know you thought this was going to be one-sided but you can pump your brakes because it’s not! As a woman why is it okay for us to take advantage of a good man? They do exist in this world that we live in. I feel like some men also settle because they want to have a woman in their lives. But you also need to wait on the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22)

Why are we so afraid to be alone so that we can learn who we are? How can you give a person your all when you have no idea what you have to offer? What’s wrong with dating yourself first? Ladies and Gentlemen it is very important that you learn who you are first. Also you have to make sure that you love who you are. And most importantly learn who you are in CHRIST! So often we forget that part then wonder why everything is falling apart. Don’t let fear cause you to settle! (2 Timothy 1:7) There is nothing wrong with going to a movie, lunch, dinner or the mall by yourself. It is during those alone times when you start to realize some things about yourself. Once you find who you are believe me you will never settle for less again!! From the beginning of time God never intended for us to be alone. The main reason we should wait on Him instead of chasing the fantasy of a relationship. (Genesis 2:22-24)

So I will end on this note stop settling for people who can only pull you down and block what God has for you. See sometimes that other person can come wrapped in a pretty package but be the worse gift you ever received. So the question that you better ask is who sent this gift to you! (Ephesians 5:25)

Change your Outlook!

I know this status is going to make some angry but I always speak the truth. As women can we get through Father’s Day without all of the sorry baby daddy statuses?? See these are the men we chose to have babies with and now that they are not living up to the Father role we want to bash them in public. When what we should be doing is praying that something in their heart will change so that they will see that the children are the ones that suffer in this whole mess. And ask God to cover our children and protect their hearts so that they don’t allow the root of rejection to take over them. Pray that as they grow older they will be able to forgive that absent parent for not being there. And they will grow to accomplish great things with love and forgiveness in their hearts. In the end it is all about the child and even if we don’t talk bad about them in front of our children they can still sense the hostility. Rejection will cause so many other bad emotions to form like anger, bitterness, hate and unforgiveness. So instead let us hold our children tight and show them what love and forgiveness looks like. Make a vow from this day forward to never say another bad word about that parent no matter how angry you are. Continue to love that child and be the best mother that you can be.

Broken Hearted

Today’s prompt in Writing 101. You stumble upon a random letter on the path. You read it. It affects you deeply, and you wish it could be returned to the person to which it’s addressed. 

Dear Micheal,

I tried so many times to tell you but I couldn’t find the right words. I Love you with all of my heart and I’m sorry that I have to leave. Just know that it’s for the best. Please don’t come looking for me. I want you to move on and find happiness. I will always love you but this can never be. You deserve a woman who can give you everything that a woman is meant to give.



My Room of Silence

An extra room has magically been added to your home overnight. The catch: if you add more than three items to it, it disappears. How do you use it?

This would be my place of silence from the hustle and bustle of life. I room where I can hear myself think. A white room with my chair by the window overlooking the trees. The smell of lavender and vanilla coming from my candle.Such a relaxing smell. And of course I would have to have my laptop. I have two major reasons why I would enjoy this room.

My first reason would be that this is my place to be in the presence of the Lord. I could meditate here and have my quiet time here. See when I want my time with Him I could take my Bible in my room and read. It’s hard to read in other rooms of the house when you have little people calling your name all of the time. I Love the little people in my house but I also love some silence at times. All mothers need a retreat and this would be mine. In this room with the noise blocked out I could hear from God without interruption. 

Now I would have a place to disappear to when I want to put my thoughts down in writing. Sitting in my chair looking out my window at the creations of the world…I write. Imagine shutting the noise out and all you have are your thoughts. In the silence I can see my thoughts coming together to create something great. The characters building in my head and the plot to put those characters in. I would write books and workbooks for the different seminars & workshops that I do. This would be my safe haven from the world!!! 

Celebrating My Life With Song

These are the 3 songs that mean so much to me. These songs represent the moment my life changed. The reason I get up and try to live a life that will glorify God.

Shekinah Glory Ministry-Yes

This is the song where I give my life over to God. I surrender it all to Him. I play this song when I get in my quiet place and I want to talk to God. This song just ushers me into the place where I am in His presence. Being in His presence is like no other feeling. Nothing on this earth can give me that much peace!!!

Never Would Have Made It-Marvin Sapp

I remember the first time I heard this song I cried like a baby. I was in a place of depression and thought my life was over. I literally was losing my mind. I listened to this song over and over again, I found comfort in this song. It let me know that I was not alone. That someone else was where I was. It made me seek God like I had never done before. This song was a turning point for me because I wanted to know God, the God that he was singing about. I truly would have lost my mind had I not turned to the Lord!!

He Paid It All-Wess Morgan

Now this song right here as to be my favorite song of all time. He paid it all, He died on the cross for me and you. Now that is the ultimate of Love. Could you even imagine giving your only son to die for the sins of others? Even when you know that this world will turn wicked. To know that God loves me so much makes me want to live a life that glorifies Him. Just listening to this song makes me feel a tugging in my heart. I Love the Lord with everything in me and I want to give Him my all!!!